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HARD TO GET HUH!!!

I'm hard to get. It's part of my personality so I don't 'play' it.

I wouldn’t play the game. That’s what playing hard to get is… a game.

This is my philosophy on “playing hard to get”: I don’t PLAY “hard to get.” I AM hard to get. I am a good person and I know what I bring to the table, therefore I don’t want to share my table with just any guy. I believe in authenticity. No games. Playing hard to get is manipulation. It is a method some girls use to “bag the guy,” but it leaves her with “a guy.” She doesn’t know anything about him that has depth. Is he a good guy? Does he have the characteristics of what she defines as a man? Does he share her values and perspective on life? Do they share common life goals?

These are questions that can’t be answered if a girl (or guy) is focused on playing games. Playing hard to get is meant to speed up the play clock… to get him hooked. BEING hard to get is the antithesis of this idea. It means she, as a woman, is vetting him by simply watching his actions. To the girls, I say don’t tell him what you wish he would be. Don’t tell him what you expect from him. Don’t feign intimate elements of a relationship ( It’s unattractive and it also decreases your own sense of value as a woman, in my humble opinion. It’s just how God made us.)

Just get to know him by watching his actions. His ACTIONS will SHOW you (talk is cheap) who he is. Many of his actions may be subtle, but they are there. Watching his actions will allow you to come to know the man he is on an authentic level. Don’t argue with what you see or nag him to change it. He is who he is. You aren’t watching to see how to change him. You are watching to see if you genuinely like and admire who he is as a guy. You are watching strictly to gather information. You are watching to see if the two of you are a potential match, which requires determining whether he is someone who is worthy of YOU. Is he a gentleman? Does he make time for you? Does he make an effort or are you an afterthought? Does he share your values in execution (in the way he lives his life)? Is he respectful of others? How does he handle himself when he’s frustrated? Angry? Worried? How does he respond when you share a concern or fear? These are examples of just a few things you should observe in a man’s behaviour. And, whether you realize it or not, he is doing the SAME thing, because YOU need to be worthy of HIM.

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BEING hard to get is not a difficult concept. BEING hard to get means you aren’t altering yourself to be what he wants. BEING hard to get means you know what you want in a man and won’t accept anything less. BEING hard to get means if a man does not meet your necessary criteria for someone with whom you could have a potential relationship, you sweetly and respectfully move on. BEING hard to get means you would accept being alone than settle for anything less than your definition of a man. BEING hard to get means that you expect just as much from yourself in your treatment of your potential mate as you expect from him… treatment that is filled with respect, acceptance, affection, warmth, and love. BEING hard to get means you are hands-off in observing a man’s behaviour, while respecting and accepting who he already is – without ulterior motives held in the common and misplaced thinking of women that see a man’s “potential,” as opposed to loving and accepting the man he already is.

While I love the idea of a relationship, it has to be the RIGHT relationship. And the only way the right relationship will work is if both people treat themselves as high-quality people who ARE hard to get.

What’s your philosophy of “hard to get” Let me know in the comments below!

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Drico
Drico
4 months ago

Playing hard many do is not playing hard. It’s games.

Jessica
Jessica
4 months ago

I don’t see the point if I like you I don’t mind letting you know if I don’t like you I won’t waste your time

Jerri
Jerri
4 months ago

So wait..
Playing hard to get is okay?

Jide
Jide
4 months ago

Nice post 👏

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